Emily's Story: Silver Haired and Extraordinary at 66.
At 66, Emily is loving her life, her body, her profession and her silver hair. Given the choice, Emily would never go back to being 26—not in a hundred years. Watch the video to hear her story.
My name is Emily Vickers. I am 66 years young.
I was in a book club and I hated it. It was all chick-lit, and I hated it. So I dropped out of my book club and I started an arts group, and I call it the Expansion Ring.
The rings on the bottom of a can, that's to keep the can from exploding if the internal temperature gets too high. So the Expansion Ring is a group of women. We meet once a month, there's a theme, and each woman brings to the party a piece of work, and it's been revolutionary for me.
I am literally, I think, just peaking.
At 26, I was insecure. I knew that real true happiness was going to be in my future, but it wasn't there at the time. I was sophisticated to a degree but I didn't know what the hell was going on.
Starting at 60, I think, is when I really decided that this is where it's at age wise. Before 60, I was always trying to please people. I was always trying to please other people. And so, at 60, I just became liberated. I started to rise, but now I'm soaring. I just feel that confidence and comfort with just being who I am is phenomenal.
So 26, 66, I would never go back, never in a hundred years.
I think a switch turned in me, and I said, “You know what? You have a degree in Art History. You're an artist and you need to get all those things off the back burner that I had put aside to make a living.”
I decided I've been making a living since I was 17 years old,it's time to make a life. And I started doing my own work.
Waking up in the morning and knowing that I didn't have to get on one of those stupid conference calls, where people are sitting around listening to themselves speak, and instead being able to go out, deal with my animals, my gardens, my farm, and jump on my bike, do whatever I want, that's what changed.
I didn't owe anybody anything anymore that I didn't have to. I didn't have to hold my tongue. I didn't have to hold back my opinions. All of those things made me feel so much more confident, so much more outgoing, and really more charitable, too, because I know how fortunate I am.
I think that once I hit 60 and I have silver hair, and people started telling me, "Wow, you really look great." Well, people never told me that before. The happiness that you feel, it comes out. And if you're not happy, you're not gonna look happy.
Exercise. Exercise is primary. That to me is the secret of aging. Well, I'd look better naked now than I did when I was 30, swear to God. I look better. I could take my clothes off right now, and you guys would just drop. I think I could be a nudist. I'm so happy with my body. And there were years where I just didn't… you know, covering up, you know. I was too thin. My breasts didn't have the shape they do now, you know.
Pilates is great for that. I'm sitting down to it. I can pass the pencil test, no problem at all. Oh, you know what it is. You put a pencil under your boob, and if it stays, you've failed the pencil test. It has to fall down. I mean, I get looks from men, and when I was in my 40s, I didn't get looks from men. I was just ordinary then.
I feel like I'm an extraordinary 66-year-old and I was an ordinary 45-year-old.
Let me tell you the story about Boom, because way before this, I had seen Cindy Joseph on Facebook with the Boom products.
At the time, the only makeup I was really using was a mineral-based powder kind of thing. I read what she said about women should never use, you know, powdery products, because, guess why, because it creases into the lines. And I'm like, "Wow, that is so true." I stopped using makeup altogether at that point but I never tried Boom. I just hadn't. Just having the three products, easy-peasy.
I'm on the go all the time, and the last thing I need to do is spend a ton of time in the bathroom making myself up.
If I can just… quickly, then it's great. And it's gonna be better than not wearing any makeup because I know it's gonna be healthier for my skin.
My mother always told me the best facelift in the world is a big broad smile. And I think the biggest compliment that I ever got from a guy was, "You know what? You've got the best smile and the best a** I've ever seen." So that was it for me. That was the compliment of the century.
But humor, and just feeling fortunate, and being grateful, and knowing what your blessings are, staying positive, never letting the negative drag you down. I think that it's essential to look at life with as much humor as you possibly can.
Be grateful every day for everything that you have, and share. Share that positive energy with other people in every way.
Now it’s your turn. What do you think of Emily’s story? Have you had a similar experience in your 50s, 60s or beyond?