Cindy: Hey, everybody, it's Saturday and I have somebody special here. I think he's probably just gonna laugh the whole time because he's not used to being in front of the camera, but this is my fiancé and he is so sweet. We had a big day and he knows that sometimes I get really tired, but I still wanna come and visit you on Saturdays and sometimes doing it every week is hard. And so he said that he wanted to do a Saturday With Cindy and I was thinking, what's he gonna talk about? So what did you wanna talk about?
Cindy: He lies.
Bruce: All the stuff that you don't know that you wanna know about her.
Cindy: What? No. He said he was gonna talk about having a guy win, talking about...well, he has to say it. What were you gonna say?
Bruce: Well, I wanted to tell you how she gives me wins in life, in love, in our relationship. So it's important for guys to win because they're like dogs. They just like to be petted. They like to be rewarded. And if you give them a win, they're gonna perform again and again and again to get the win and Cindy is an expert at this. And it may sound like a strange concept but if you think about it, that's how you train a dog and we're not that far from dogs, actually.
Cindy: Is that the cutest thing you ever heard or ever saw? And I wish that I did that all the time. I'm really bad at it, I think. I'm so happy you said that. Guys, you're like dogs. Sometimes you're pigs, too, but they're the cutest, sweetest things, too. Listen to him. Go.
Bruce: Can't live without us, can't live with us, but most women choose to live with us.
Cindy: And is this just a husband or a boyfriend or could this be a buddy or a friend or a brother or a father?
Bruce: This could be anything. Any man, any relationship with a man. If you want them to respond, you have to give 'em wins. You have to let 'em win and what winning looks like, just thanking 'em for anything that they might've done, any little cycle that they finished, that they completed, give 'em a reward. Just like you would if a dog went outside and did his business outside, you'd say, "Good boy. Good girl." Well, same thing. Not quite that simple but basically the same.
Cindy: All right. So let's try it. You were so amazing today. You came with me, you sat through a presentation that you've heard a thousand times and you totally supported me. That was really, really awesome.
Bruce: Thank you, baby.
Cindy: Would you do that again?
Cindy: Thank you. All right, now I'm gonna do another one. Everything you did was really awesome. Would you consider making sure I have enough food and water when I do that, next time?
Bruce: I will. I'm gonna make sure that you have enough food and water, because when Cindy gets...
Cindy: You are a sweetie, thank you.
Bruce: Yes, thank you. Because when Cindy gets going, she doesn't always think and remember to eat and drink and then she gets dehydrated and she kinda winds down because she doesn't eat. So it's something I have to do to help her avoid that.
Cindy: And what I did is I gave him a win and then I offered another way for him to win because guys wanna win. So I said, "That was so great the way you supported me today and you were there and all that." So he's feeling good about it. And then I said, "Would you also make sure I have food and water?" He's like, "Well, she liked the way I did that. She wants that. Yeah, it's another opportunity to win."
Bruce: So that's the concept of guys winning. So we're just waiting for the wins so we can produce more wins and we can produce more wins, and men love to produce for their women and all they need is a little motivation.
Cindy: Yeah. And to take that thought even further, guys like to win in all situations, not just with women and their women because some guys don't have a woman. They like to win games, goals. They like to set goals that they know they're gonna win, and it might just be throwing cards and do a hat from across the room. It might be throwing a basketball into a basket. It might be swimming laps, whatever they're good at, they go for that because they know they're gonna win at it. And it's not guaranteed that they're gonna win with a woman. A lot of guys avoid situations with women because of that. So we can make it a much more pleasurable experience for them and have them come back again and again for another win if we're just nice to them. We're so mad at them all the time it's hard to be nice.
So that goes into a deeper subject, but the simplicity of it is they just wanna win. So tell them how they're winning and then ask for what you want in such a way that they think there's an opportunity to win again.
Bruce: And watch and see what happens.
Cindy: Give it a try, report back. We wanna know everything.
Cindy: That was really fun. I'm so glad you did that. Would you do another one?
Bruce: Of course.
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