Once you have compassion, that allows you to just step back a minute and go, "Okay. If I were this person, how would I feel being treated this way?"
What I would tell anyone, whether it's a woman who is of a certain age or not, I would say, take it one nanosecond at a time. Because if you can just stand and go, "It's gonna get better," just take that one second and go, "It's gonna get better," then you also have to surround yourself with people who are of that like mind.
You can't try to get through and sometimes stay with the same old friends or the same old family members who are in that negative kind of mind frame.
It's so funny because I always talk about my mom. But my mom has come up in a different era as an African-American woman, as a dark-skinned African-American woman which comes with its own problems. And a lot of times I have to step away from my mother even to say, "Oh no, I've gotta protect myself right now." And I'll go back to her when I've shored up my feelings.
Being selfish is not a bad thing when you're protecting your own psyche, and your own heart, and your own spirit. You take it one nanosecond at a time, go buy a nice pair of shoes if you can.
Do whatever puts you into that happy kind of zone for that moment. And I know I joke about it a lot, but that's what gets me through. Looking at it one nanosecond at a time. And once you can make yourself feel better, then you can go out and feel like you have your guard, your positive guard. So, that's what I would tell a woman who might be going through a little difficulty.
Do what makes you feel pretty, because no matter how we look at it, most of us like looking pretty or looking good or looking presentable or looking like, you go outside and people go, "Wow. You look good."
Yeah, okay. Yes, I want to look good because that makes me happy.